"REAL" meaning of Positivity
Positivity - What's the Meaning?
"Frequently Spoken and Heard word in today's world." Isn't it?
What's the definition you know of this word?
I can bet, almost 99% of us will claim that we actually know what it is and would describe as follows:
- Positivity is ignoring all the negative thoughts that we have.
- Positivity is being OPTIMISTIC.
- Positivity is thinking more on what we have as if we've already got that.... bla bla bla...
- Positivity works magically, if we follow and practice it without thinking or concentrating on the negative thoughts/possibilities.
Correct?
I am sure, most of you have thought of these answers. And I would not say they are wrong completely. It's right only but Partially. NOT FULLY. I would rather call your definition of "Positivity" as "Wishful Thinking" (Meaning imaginary thinking of what you actually want in your life). Which can be at times possibly very far from the reality. !!! Be cautious !!! Because this wishful thinking what you consider as "positivity" could be more dangerous than Negativity.
Let me put it other way. Let me tell you what "Positivity" is NOT:
- Positivity is not just to think positive and simply ignore all the possible negative things in life.
- In this case, where's the REALITY? Where's the logic?
- Positivity is not only being OPTIMISTIC in all the case.
- Being optimistic is really a very positive and good thought process, but not ignoring the practical scenario. Think over again if you are practicing such Optimism.
- Positivity is not only focusing on what you want in life, but also considering the probable situational risks on the way of your goal / desires. Also focusing more on the ways to overcome those risks. I would say, this is the actual positive approach.
- Positivity is not at all a magic. You need to understand this clearly. Nothing happens without an actual effort for it. Nothing happens overnight.
Let me give you an example:
If you are going for a job interview. What all the thoughts you will have at that time if you are practicing that "Positivity" (rather wishful thinking)???
- I will get that job definitely. This confidence is required but not only this is required that's my point.
- I will convince the interviewer because, I am visualizing that I have already got the job. I will attract that job for me, because I have that power of positivity.
These all are your wishes and not actually, you are doing anything for this. Perhaps, you (like most of others) are thinking that, being positive and not at all thinking negative sides, will be the right positive approach. But which is really not true at all logically / practically.
Rather, you should have more focus on
- "Why company/interviewer will hire me for this job while there are 100 applicants for the same position?"
- "What I have different in me then all others?"
- "What I can show as value addition for them?"
And should have put more efforts on those things to fine tune yourself for that job interview. This way, you can surely stand different than all others.
What's the point in putting 100% to prepare for a job interview? Instead, just research about the company/position you are applying for how much you can. And be prepared to just show your related knowledge during the interview. Upon this, you can keep the attitude like: "I have tried my hard researching about the company and position what I am going to give an interview: now if I get the job, It will be good for both - Me & Company :), and if I don't get the job, it's okay !!! Something even bigger is planned for me !!! Cheers !!!" If you have this much at least, you surely won't have to struggle to convince the interviewer. Because, that confidence only will speak for you. And that 100% efforts you can put in your work after getting that job. What Say?
Think differently to be different, it's as simple as that.
"If you will continue thinking the way you are thinking currently, you cannot expect a change at all in your life." ------ K'Tool :-)
Being positive is the most powerful thing; but if it's interpreted wrongly, it can be the most dangerous thing for your coming life.
Change your perceptions / prejudices / bound thoughts for anything in life start going with the flow and focusing more on your desires/goals and ways to achieve them, you will definitely find the way towards all the goals and desires you have.
Have an actual POSITIVE life...
Cheers !!!
